Today I learnt that Kai’s father has had another child, who is about 1 now.
I don’t think I expected him to have anymore, though why I didn’t expect him to have more, I’m not sure. In all honesty, why wouldn’t he though?
Over the past 4 years, I have fully expected my reaction to the event of this news to be crushing.
Surprisingly it is not.
What I have mixed feelings about though, is why he has never told me? We have kept in sporadic email contact. Christmas and a couple of times a year, How’s it going? type emails. So over the past two years you would think he may have mentioned a pregnancy or another child?
Wouldn’t you???
Once upon a time this was my best friend, and until today someone I really missed not having in my life. Today I feel some what betrayed and bewildered. Why would he not have mentioned it? I have a few speculations but none of them really have any weight.
By the way I found out on Facebook… a mutual friend had commented on a picture of him and his kids!
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Another thing I learnt today was that my house doesn’t have an electrical safety switch. I learnt this when the kettle exploded and burst into flames! I guess I can thank the Universe that at least I was not asleep, and that I was home when it occurred, so no-one was injured and my house didn’t burn down!
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I’m glad you were not hurt in the fire!!! How scary!
I’m a bit lost on the other stuff. But I think I understand enough to know that I’d probably feel a bit lost, confused, and betrayed too.
I’d be pissed off. I don’t blame you. You think he might have mentioned it somewhere down the line but perhaps he didn’t know how you’d react. Not nice to find out through FB though. Not at all.
Get yourself an electrical safety switch love! You were lucky.
I do …how did you know I missed you.
I glad you are both okay Lani.That must have been so scary. You were so lucky and I agree with Melody…no doubt you have it under control.
Feeling betrayed and the mixed feelings about another baby are natural. You shared something precious in Kai and no wonder you are confused as to why he didn’t disclose it.
Maybe he felt you would be sad …
(hugs).Men do such unexplainable (?) things.
I do …how did you know I missed you.
I glad you are both okay Lani.That must have been so scary. You were so lucky and I agree with Melody…no doubt you have it under control.
Feeling betrayed and the mixed feelings about another baby are natural. You shared something precious in Kai and no wonder you are confused as to why he didn’t disclose it.
Maybe he felt you would be sad …
(hugs).Men do such unexplainable (?) things.
I think it’s completely natural that you would be annoyed that he didn’t mention it. I can only guess that he didn’t want to upset you. But if he’d thought it through he should have realised you’d find out sooner or later and keeping it secret might hurt more than the actual news.
((hugs))
Oh, and yeah – get a safety switch!!! Soon!!!
Oh my – do you think the electrical kettle explosion was the universe underlining your revelation?
I remember once (well, actually twice) finding out an ex-boyfriend (well, actually two) had omitted to advise their being fathers status.
The first I had broken up with because I couldn’t believe him when he said he had no ex-wife back home after several of his mates had alluded to the fact. The six children back home sort of just made me a tad more upset – to deny an ex-wife, not cool, to deny being the procreater of 6? Really uncool.
The second finally admitted to 1 child about 4 months after the breakup. The whole “actually, 3″ conversation never came from him.
I was pretty p!ssed off, and began to see that I have some horrid karma to work through from previous lives.
Pretty crappy, isn’t it? Maybe the safety switch should be installed in international relationships AS WELL as in the household?
Hugs.
*Oof*
Slap!!
Wow.
Glad you are safe.
Dina – Sorry didn’t mean to lose you
Melody – I’m not pissed off, just really, really bewildered why he wouldn’t mention it?
Safety switch arranged
Trish – Men certainly do unexplainable things, and my guess is that he probably was trying not to make me sad, but…
Guera – That’s why I think its more odd, he must have known I’d find out sooner or later?
Jeanie – The only revelation from the kettle was it was feeling neglected!
It must have found out I’d being eyeing off a nice stainless steel Russell Hobbs number that i couldn’t justify buying until the exploding kettle expired!
Thankfully the international relationship safety switch kicked in a long while back!
Tiff – Great exclamations!!!
Seems he maybe really just wanted to protect you, was maybe afraid he might hurt your feelings.
Though, certainly, it must hurt way more to find out like this. So sorry to hear!
Oh, my! You had some luck with the house!!
Maybe iris is right, but personally, I think not. He isn’t trying to protect you. He’s just got his head up his ass, that’s all.
And I’m so glad you weren’t hurt with the fire and stuff. Get a safety switch. PLEASE!!!