Another Reason for Disliking Hallmark Holidays

By MissyBoo On August 19, 2010 · 6 Comments · In donor dad, Uncategorized

Father’s Day is coming up very soon.

Boo has already made a decision at ‘little’ kindy (without any input) that the gift she is making is for her Grandpa.

She made the decision on her own, that she was inviting Grandpa to the Father’s Day Breakfast at school. I did ask her if she would like me to ask her dad, but was told a very definite, NO.

I was the helper at Boo’s kindy today.

This morning the teacher, Mrs C read a story about a little boy and his dad. I felt Boo snuggle a little closer on my lap. Some of the children then told what their dads look like, and what they like doing with their dads.

Boo had sort of tuned out and was facing away from the group of children. Mrs C then asked her what she liked to do with her mum, or her family. Boo happily answered that she likes when I take her to concerts like Swan Lake.

The children were going to start making Father’s Day cards and gifts today. The children went to their various activities. My helper job was painting the serving trays the children made a couple of weeks ago. Boo had already done hers, so was not in my group. She became clingy and teary. Would not go and play with her friend’s and became very possessive of me.

The teachers and I were very surprised at Boo’s behaviour. This is very out of character, and the teachers had never seen her like this.

She was back to her normal self by morning tea time.

It hit me when I left at lunchtime.

Boo was probably processing her feelings, and a little insecure listening to all the other children talk about their dads.

I had a rough afternoon beating myself up with mummy guilt of not realising at the time what her problem was, but I have been making up for it with lots of cuddles this evening.

I have asked her what was bothering her this morning and she said she felt a little sad because she wanted to be in my group at kindy. I haven’t suggested what I think was upsetting her.

At least with all the cards and gifts going to Grandpa this year, I won’t have to deal with the icky poem from last year!

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Iris says:

August 19, 2010 at 22:20

Yes, a difficult situation. But bet Boo is soon over it – with a Mum like you no problem, huh?

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jen says:

August 20, 2010 at 06:21

My dad always gets the father’s day card too. It’s a tough one isn’t it. I’m sure lots of cuddles helped fix up her feelings. I also feel for all the people who’ve lost their fathers and mothers on these hallmark days.

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h&b says:

August 20, 2010 at 09:33

We don’t do Mothers or Father’s Day here and I really hate the way all these óccasions’ are thrust upon us. No-one’s life lives up to the hype, i’m sure, and yet we are all left wondering if we are missing out on something that everyone else has got?

The reality is often far from the dream.

Poor Boo, poor you
xx

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jeanie says:

August 20, 2010 at 09:48

Father’s Day (and related activities in c/care and lower school) was always opportunity to discuss what different sorts of families there were when ‘Salina was younger.

Even though V has come into our picture, there is still a lot of focus on the extended family who were our role models through other years.

Once you get a few years under the belt, its amazing how statistics bend to your little one not being ostrasized in any way.

Best luck in getting through the saccharine stuff.

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MissyBoo says:

August 20, 2010 at 17:36

Iris – Boo is all good

Jen – It is tough! Thankfully this stuff doesn’t seem to overly affect Boo… At the moment!

h&b – Thanks, we sort of skip all the thrust upon occasions too. Unfortunately, school doesn’t!

Jeanie – I know child care has used the opportunities to discuss different families. School on the other hand did not seem to, maybe it’s because it’s a Catholic School, or because I was there?
There are 2 other kids in her class not living with dad, but they are doing the every 2nd weekend thing.

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